Meeting Him Where He’s At

Meeting Him Where He’s At

I used to ask, "How does this relationship serve me?" or "How do I fix him?" or "How do I get him to see my point of view?" I know it sounds selfish, but it honestly did come from a place of having certain needs of mine met, like respect, communication or a shared...

Why Men Shut Down or Disappear

Why Men Shut Down or Disappear

The other day, I got a call from a client. "Sarika Aunty, he's been giving me the cold shoulder over the past two days, what do I do??" Have you been in that situation? Let's face it. When a man shuts down or withdraws, it freaks us out. You begin to wonder, "Did I...

Launching of Sarika Aunty!

Launching of Sarika Aunty!

I have been silent for a few weeks because I have some exciting news... I am going through a rebranding! And you are getting the front-row seat of this transformation 🙂 So, drumrolls please... I am now going to known as Sarika Aunty (have you seen Sima Aunty in...

My Thoughts on “Indian Matchmaking” on Netflix

My Thoughts on “Indian Matchmaking” on Netflix

Have you watched Indian Matchmaking on Netflix? As a Love and Relationship coach of Indian heritage, a rom-com junkie and someone who’s experienced years of the ups and downs dating to meet my husband, I joined the rest of America in binge-watching the seemingly...

The Five Levels of Desire

The Five Levels of Desire

In Indian tantric teachings, there are five levels of desire. These are (roughly): 1. Longing and desiring for something or someone 2. Being mentally and emotionally disturbed by this object of desire 3. Becoming enchanted / intoxicated by this desire (thinking about...

The Power of Facing Your Deepest Fear (Awakened Living Ep. 3)

The Power of Facing Your Deepest Fear (Awakened Living Ep. 3)

The “Dark Night of the Soul” is a term used to describe a collapse of a perceived meaning in life. What dies, in essence, is the egoic sense of self. Yet what is birthed through the process, when approached with mindfulness and the right tools, is your truest essence,...

How to Find and Live Your Purpose (Awakened Living Ep. 2)

How to Find and Live Your Purpose (Awakened Living Ep. 2)

Years ago, I felt an urge inside of me to do something incredible and meaningful in my life. I was single, working in the corporate world as a management consultant, and yet I felt a sense of wondering... isn't there more to life than this? I felt stuck, bored and...

Is Life Feeling Like Groundhog’s Day? (Awakened Living Ep. 1)

Is Life Feeling Like Groundhog’s Day? (Awakened Living Ep. 1)

Do you feel like you keep attracting the same patterns over and over?   Is life feeling like Groundhog's Day?   Are you sick of being in a rut in your love life, or are you going through a health breakdown of some sort? If you're nodding your head YES then I want you...

This is What’s Killing Your Relationships

This is What’s Killing Your Relationships

I know it's been a while since I've written. I now have two daughters (three and one!), and they are  simply magnificent. I am also writing my book, tentatively called, "The 90 Day Soulmate Plan: Get Out of Your Own Way and Attract the Higher Love You Deserve" set to...

Year 2020 – Learning Transcendence through Motherhood

Year 2020 – Learning Transcendence through Motherhood

[Submission for book 'Unbound Perspectives: 2020' to be published by the Unbound Press in February 2020] On January first of 2020, as I lay in bed next to my one-month old infant, I asked the universe for a sign for what I could be focusing on for my work. Although I...

6 Keys to Thriving in Your Relationship During Times of Crisis

6 Keys to Thriving in Your Relationship During Times of Crisis

No matter what your relationship situation is, this (and any) crisis is a great time to have a breakthrough in your relationship.  "There is a spiritual solution to every problem" ~ Wayne Dyer The Coronavirus pandemic has revealed many cracks in peoples' love lives,...

Motherhood In a Nutshell

Motherhood In a Nutshell

Yesterday, I ended my evening in tears, not feeling a single thing in my body except for aches, and a level of anguish. In fact, I had that breaking moment two or three times yesterday, and nearly every day this week. Tomorrow is Mothers Day, and I am truly grateful...

The Soulmate Within

The Soulmate Within

"You are searching the world for treasure, but the real treasure is yourself." ~ Rumi   Look in the mirror when you wake up, and say, "Hello goddess, it's so lovely to see you today! I'm so grateful to you." Smile at yourself, and notice how your eyes scrunch up...

A Simple Practice to Heal Your Karmic Wounds

A Simple Practice to Heal Your Karmic Wounds

Relationships are our greatest teachers. From a karmic standpoint each relationship we have - whether it’s incidental like a colleague at work, or intimate like a parent or lover - is present in our life for some sort of healing. Even a random encounter like the...

Honoring Your Body’s Needs

Honoring Your Body’s Needs

Your body is a magnificent storehouse of wisdom, magic, love, sensuality, divine connection and so much more. She is your beloved, and has fifty two trillion cells, each cell being conscious and alive. She is the gift your spirit has been given to experience this...

During Coronavirus, How to Choose Love Over Fear

During Coronavirus, How to Choose Love Over Fear

Due to the latest Coronavirus outbreak, we decided to stay in our home in the suburbs in New Jersey, so as to practice social distancing indefinitely. This was a sudden shift for us - from the busy and active life in Manhattan, surrounded by friends and sending my...

5 Things Motherhood Taught Me About Love

5 Things Motherhood Taught Me About Love

Guess what - I had a baby! She was born on Nov 11th (11/11 baby), and her name's Maya - which we felt would go perfectly with her older sister's name, Lila. She is such a sweet baby - calm, easygoing, and makes lots of cute sounds and faces 🙂 As you can imagine, life...

5 Keys to Finding Joy While Dating

5 Keys to Finding Joy While Dating

Do you struggle with staying happy, present and joyful while dating?  Or are you afraid to even get out there and start??  Or maybe you're dating someone now, and find it challenging to find joy - instead you feel anxious and exhausted? You, girlfriend, are at the...

Getting Back to Dating After Taking a Break

Getting Back to Dating After Taking a Break

I know it's been a while since I've written - I've been pretty busy and exhausted in my 7th month of pregnancy! But I'm so thankful that everything is going well - I'm not as anxious as I was my last pregnancy - feeling so much more grounded and peaceful. We just got...

Self love is the greatest gift you can give to your children

Self love is the greatest gift you can give to your children

Today, I got off a call with a 40-something woman who said she struggled with low self esteem. In both of her long relationships, the men would criticize her and put her down.  If she wanted to try going on a vegan diet, her partner would ask, "well, that's a dumb...