Inner Activism as Love

Inner Activism as Love

   As the world gets heated with different issues pulling us in different emotional ways, I invite you to perhaps look at things differently.   What if the world is our collective projection, and that the greatest, most loving and powerful gift we can offer is to face...

Moving from Anxious to Secure Attachment Style

Moving from Anxious to Secure Attachment Style

Although I personally love Attachment Theory, I believe that we are all capable of becoming Anxiously Attached after going through a one or several heartbreaks.  Relationship trauma accumulates in our bodies, an energetic wall begins to be built around our heart and...

South Asian Stories Podcast: How I became a Love Coach

South Asian Stories Podcast: How I became a Love Coach

On Valentine's Day, I was featured on the South Asian Stories podcast where the host, Sameer Desai, interviews brown people like me with non-traditional careers. I am so excited to share this Podcast interview with you. In it, I give super juicy details around: + My...

The Secret to Lasting Love

The Secret to Lasting Love

When I was going through my breakup with my ex-fiancé, instead of going to my normal behavior of drinking and getting back on a dating app, I began a deep self-awareness and self-love journey.  During this process, I began to see that the ways I was showing up in my...

The Power of Your Vulnerability

The Power of Your Vulnerability

As a young woman, I was always hard on myself to be the best I could. I was determined to be strong and be seen as capable, and independent when I needed to be. As I share in my ebook 5 Mistakes Women Make in Love this tendency ultimately pushed men away from me. I...

14 Mantras for Transformation

14 Mantras for Transformation

Your thoughts create your reality. I'm sure you know that! But did you also know that you can also leave it up to the Divine to help create your reality? Did you know that there are ways to step your ego aside, and let the Divine do her work through the magnificence...

How to Know if He’s Into You

How to Know if He’s Into You

Last night, I watched "The Holiday Calendar" (yes, the holiday movies have begun!). Warning - spoiler alert below!   The main actress couldn't see that her best friend, a beautiful, soulful, world-traveling man, was in love with her. He was always showing up for her,...

Love is My Religion, an essay

Love is My Religion, an essay

Many years ago, I didn’t know what religion, truth or sanctity was. I was fortunate to be born into an Indian religion, Jainism, which teaches, “Live and Let Live” (the same ‘Ahimsa’ or ethos of non-violence that Mahatma Gandhi promoted), in which the sacredness of...

Meeting Him Where He’s At

Meeting Him Where He’s At

I used to ask, "How does this relationship serve me?" or "How do I fix him?" or "How do I get him to see my point of view?" I know it sounds selfish, but it honestly did come from a place of having certain needs of mine met, like respect, communication or a shared...

Why Men Shut Down or Disappear

Why Men Shut Down or Disappear

The other day, I got a call from a client. "Sarika, he's been giving me the cold shoulder over the past two days, what do I do??" Have you been in that situation? Let's face it. When a man shuts down or withdraws, it freaks us out. You begin to wonder, "Did I say or...

My Thoughts on “Indian Matchmaking” on Netflix

My Thoughts on “Indian Matchmaking” on Netflix

Have you watched Indian Matchmaking on Netflix? As a Love and Relationship coach of Indian heritage (check out my new FREE ebook, "How to Date & Find Your Mate... Without the Masala"), a rom-com junkie and someone who’s experienced years of the ups and downs...

The Five Levels of Desire

The Five Levels of Desire

In Indian tantric teachings, there are five levels of desire. These are (roughly): 1. Longing and desiring for something or someone 2. Being mentally and emotionally disturbed by this object of desire 3. Becoming enchanted / intoxicated by this desire (thinking about...

The Power of Facing Your Deepest Fear (Awakened Living Ep. 3)

The Power of Facing Your Deepest Fear (Awakened Living Ep. 3)

The “Dark Night of the Soul” is a term used to describe a collapse of a perceived meaning in life. What dies, in essence, is the egoic sense of self. Yet what is birthed through the process, when approached with mindfulness and the right tools, is your truest essence,...

How to Find and Live Your Purpose (Awakened Living Ep. 2)

How to Find and Live Your Purpose (Awakened Living Ep. 2)

Years ago, I felt an urge inside of me to do something incredible and meaningful in my life. I was single, working in the corporate world as a management consultant, and yet I felt a sense of wondering... isn't there more to life than this? I felt stuck, bored and...

Is Life Feeling Like Groundhog’s Day? (Awakened Living Ep. 1)

Is Life Feeling Like Groundhog’s Day? (Awakened Living Ep. 1)

Do you feel like you keep attracting the same patterns over and over?   Is life feeling like Groundhog's Day?   Are you sick of being in a rut in your love life, or are you going through a health breakdown of some sort? If you're nodding your head YES then I want you...

This is What’s Killing Your Relationships

This is What’s Killing Your Relationships

I know it's been a while since I've written. I now have two daughters (three and one!), and they are  simply magnificent. I am also writing my book, tentatively called, "The 90 Day Soulmate Plan: Get Out of Your Own Way and Attract the Higher Love You Deserve" set to...

Year 2020 – Learning Transcendence through Motherhood

Year 2020 – Learning Transcendence through Motherhood

[Submission for book 'Unbound Perspectives: 2020' to be published by the Unbound Press in February 2020] On January first of 2020, as I lay in bed next to my one-month old infant, I asked the universe for a sign for what I could be focusing on for my work. Although I...

6 Keys to Thriving in Your Relationship During Times of Crisis

6 Keys to Thriving in Your Relationship During Times of Crisis

No matter what your relationship situation is, this (and any) crisis is a great time to have a breakthrough in your relationship.  "There is a spiritual solution to every problem" ~ Wayne Dyer The Coronavirus pandemic has revealed many cracks in peoples' love lives,...

Motherhood In a Nutshell

Motherhood In a Nutshell

Yesterday, I ended my evening in tears, not feeling a single thing in my body except for aches, and a level of anguish. In fact, I had that breaking moment two or three times yesterday, and nearly every day this week. Tomorrow is Mothers Day, and I am truly grateful...